Domestic Violence

Stop, Look & Listen

 How many times have we told our children this?

 How many times have we told them to look where they are going?

How many times have we told them to listen to us?

 

Growing up in a Southern Baptist Church I grew up with a song that starts out: Stop, Look and Listen, listen that’s what they tell the children, children… stop look and listen don’t run away..

I don’t remember the rest of the words but the jest of it is:

Stop– turn off all electronics and have a face to face talk with no distractions or interruptions, make the other person feel important, as they should be. Give them your FULL attention.

Look– Look around you, look where you are going, don’t just watch life go by, look and join in.

Listen– Listen to your children, your spouse, your family, your friends. Have the deep connection that is not through electronics.

Pay attention to one another. Live life TOGETHER, not through cell phones, not through TV’s, not through social media. But together, in person (or as much as possible) and really, truly get to KNOW one another and LIVE LIFE!

Life is so short as it is. Social media and all the other forms of life sucking electronics shouldn’t be as important as your loved one. Please, think about this.

When I was growing up, I didn’t have video games, cell phones, social media, not even a computer. Shocking, right? RIGHT! But it’s ok. I’m ok. Oh don’t get me wrong, I love playing on my “smart” phone like everyone else, but when my kids come over, I play games-card and/or board games, with my kids and grandkids. I spend time with them. I try really hard to not get on my phone when they are here.

When I was married to my first husband, I wasn’t allowed to play games. We would go to his brother’s house (same father, different mother) and they played poker. While they did that, I played scrabble with my sister-in-law. That was something interesting! The words we would either make up were something else! OR we would say this game is for “sex” words only or relating to sex. Or this time it’s for kids or relating to kids. Those were some good games. However, like all things, it came to an end when my (now ex) husband realized I was enjoying those times. So he quit gambling and we stopped going.

I couldn’t have people over to our house, couldn’t do parties, unless it was for the kids’ birthdays and only then it was immediate family.

Having been abused myself, I understand how lonely it gets. I also know that everyone has a choice. If you don’t think you do, think again! YOU DO! Everyone DOES! I did, you do too.

It took me a long time to find that out. Don’t wait for long. If you are in an abusive relationship, get out. It doesn’t pay to stay. It will only do more harm than good. If they promise to change, still leave and ask that they go to counseling to work on being better–first apart then together.

Nothing is forever, except death.

Now, onto a happier note: STOP, LOOK, & LISTEN! Do this and you will find more happiness. Patience is also a good thing to have, I’m still working on finding some myself! Lol.

Peace, Love, Harmony to one and to all.

Love, Lou-Ellen

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