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WELCOME to Lou-Ellen’s Literature.

My name is Lou-Ellen and this blog page is mainly about abuse.

*Sexual abuse
*Physical abuse
*Verbal abuse
*Mental abuse
*Emotional abuse
*Relationship abuse
*Domestic abuse
*Spousal abuse

You name it, I have been through it, personally!   I want to help you work through any abuse issues you may have.

I am the author of “Abused…It Is What It Is” (found on Amazon.com) it is about my life. I have been abused.  I understand what it is like to have been abused from a mere child all through my late 20’s early 30’s.

I have been abused every which way but Sunday.  I’m still not “over it”. I have dealt with it, controlled it, conquered it– or so I think on the good days. I understand the pain and anguish. Abuse isn’t something one can “get over” or “let go” or “overcome”.  I still work on it, sometimes even going over my first steps again in my healing process. (A book in the process to come out soon telling of my steps.)

Now I am no longer a victim of abuse, I am a SURVIVOR. I will no longer allow my abusers to have that much power/control over me EVER AGAIN!

What would your life be like if you no longer had to look over your shoulder?
What would you do if you no longer had abuse in your life?
How different would your life be?

If you never had to look over your shoulder again, your life would be one of freedom. It would be one of caring, loving, kindness, laughing and most importantly family and friends. You’d never have to feel scared, lonely, or worthless again.  You’d be free to be, YOU. No fear of being abused. No fear that people will judge you. No fear that you can’t make friends.

If you feel you need to call for help, please call the national abuse hotline:  1-800-656-4673.

If you no longer had abuse in your life, you could come and go as you please. You’d be able to make friends at your place of work. You’d be able to invite friends over or even accept their invitations to go out with them. With abuse out of the picture, can you see yourself watching a romantic or funny movie and being able to enjoy it without any repercussions?  If you can picture your life free of abuse, it’s time to change it.

How different would your life be? Do you have children that you would like to be free from abuse and have the fun that children deserve to have? Running in the sun, playing in the sand at the beach, in the woods; camping, hiking, laughter!

It took me until I was 32 to leave my abusive husband, ex now, and take my three children and move. I walked in on him strangling our ten-year-old son. He had his hands around his throat and our son was not touching the ground.  I keep wondering what would have happened had I not gotten home when I did and stopped him. I am ever so thankful it happened, it got me to MOVE OUT! I’m sorry it happened to my son. My children suffered for my insecurities, my weaknesses, my inability to be stronger in order to protect my children! For that, I will forever be sorry.

When I left him, I had NO money. Barely the clothes on my back. After a long struggle, he finally gave me all the kids things and most of mine. But I’m telling you, I didn’t care. MATERIAL THINGS are JUST THINGS! My life and my children’s lives are worth more than money could ever buy!

As I was saying, I left with little to nothing, and I am good with that. I left knowing that my children and I would be MUCH better off. I couldn’t afford counseling, so I went to my local Christian book store and bought books. Like:  The Five Love Languages, What to expect before, during and after marriage (or something like that),  and  how to be a single parent (again, something like this).

I learned that husbands were suppose to treat women with love. Colossians 3:19 says: “Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.” That did NOT happen in my first marriage!!!  But the Bible said this is what to expect.  I read also that in Psalm 9:9 it says: “The Lord also will be a refuge for the oppressed, A refuge in times of trouble.” (Oppressed means subject to harsh and authoritarian treatment—like me being abused)

I read and studied the Bible like never before! God gave me strength. HE also sent his son to die for me, FOR ME! YOU TOO! HE must love us so much to send his son to die for US! How humbling is it to know that GOD loves us so much that he gave us his son. John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that HE gave his only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.”   That is DEEP!

But I am not sorry I learned lessons from both of my abusers. They taught me what I didn’t want in life. They have proven to be just the @55holes that bullies are. Yes, abusers are nothing more than bullies.

From the time I was seven until I turned 32, I was at the hands of abusers. It was all I knew. I didn’t know anything else. Now, now I KNOW there is help out there. Now I know there are others in worse situations than what I was in. Now I know.. more than I ever wanted to.

But I’m here to help YOU, to show you the light, God’s light, his love, his Son-Jesus Christ. I want YOU to know that I CARE—HE CARES, I BELIEVE—HE BELIEVES in YOU!

In the New King James Version—Jeremiah 29:11 says: “For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”  A FUTURE AND A HOPE!  This is what gives me peace; knowing that GOD has plans and a hopeful future for ME!

Romans 6:23 says: “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

As you can see, GOD is there with you. Helping you, even if you can’t feel it now. But BELIEVE! You are NOT alone!

You don’t have to be alone. Reach out. Get Help before it’s too late. Save yourself. No one else can. Save your children. No one else will love them more or better than you.

Please sign up for my blogs, leave me a comment, email me, or just read my blogs. I hope they help you. If there is something you NEED to know or read, let me know. I’ll do the best I can to write it.

Thank you. You are so kind. So caring. So loving. Be good to yourself.  I promise, there is Light after Abuse!

With sincere and unconditional love,

Lou-Ellen.