Domestic Violence

Choices. Did you choose to be… ?

We all have choices. Did you know you can choose to be sick or healthy? Did you know you can choose who to love? Did you know you can choose to be straight, gay, lesbian, bi, trans?  Did you know you can choose to be abused?  Nope, not me! I DID NOT KNOW!

I hear so many people say things like, she’s a slut. Why would she do that?
A lot of people don’t know her background. Maybe she was abused, oh and that is her fault too, and she turned into a slut. Maybe she didn’t have parents to raise her. Maybe… We really don’t know, unless you ask.

Why is it so easy to judge? Why do we want to judge? Are our sins any better? Do you lie? Steal? Cheat? Why do we do what we do?

As many of you know, I was abused. My step-father showed me his “love” and told me that no one would love me, unless I showed them “love” too. Years of brain washing. Did it affect me? HELL YES! When he stopped “showing me love”, I turned into the “slut” I was accused of. I just wanted to be loved. Did anyone stop and ask me or tell me that wasn’t the way? NO. Did they care enough? Probably not.

What about the Gays, Lesbians, Bi’s, Trans? Do they have a choice? Do they want your judgment? No, no, and HELL NO!

So, why do we do it? Why do we judge or even suggest that we have choices? I wish I knew the answer. Just like I wish I knew how to stop them. I can’t.

What I can tell you is what CHOICE you DO HAVE. You have the choice to survive it. Live through it. Love yourself, because honey, no one else will until you do first. Live, laugh, love. That’s my philosophy.

You DO have the CHOICE to IGNORE them too! People will say and do hurtful things, it’s our CHOICE to ignore it, let it go or do something about it. Me? I’ll probably let it go and ignore it unless it’s physically hurting me, then I’ll do something about it.

Choose your actions and reactions wisely Choose your lifestyle for YOU. Choose your religious beliefs, political beliefs, your life FOR YOU!

Choose wisely, choose, choose, choose. Choices are for you AND me.

I’m making the choice to post this in hopes others feel the same way and let people live their lives the way they want to. I’m hoping that ABUSE will stop, and that others who KNOW it’s happening helps STOP IT!  Choices. What will you choose today? What actions or reactions will be your choice?

Love wholeheartedly

Laugh LOUD and OFTEN

Live for yourself, live it well, write each line/page/chapter with love and laughter!

Go forth and CHOOSE!


About Lou

I am the light to brighten the way. Come on in and let's talk any day. I'm here to lend a shoulder or an ear. One can always leave me messages on here.
View all posts by Lou →