About Me

Being abused from childhood through my beginning adulthood, I understand the pain and anguish. Abuse isn’t something one can “get over” or “let go” or “overcome”.

My book “Abused…It Is What It Is” (found on Amazon.com) is about my life. I have been abused:

Every which way but Sunday.  I’m still not “over it”. I have dealt with it, controlled it, conquered it.
Now I am no longer a victim of abuse, I am a SURVIVOR. I will no longer allow my abusers to have that much power/control over me EVER AGAIN!

What would your life be like if you no longer had to look over your shoulder?
What would you do if you no longer had abuse in your life?
How different would your life be?

If you never had to look over your shoulder again, your life would be one of freedom. It would be one of caring, loving, kindness, laughing and most importantly family and friends. You’d never have to feel scared, lonely, or worthless again.  You’d be free to be, YOU. No fear of being abused. No fear that people will judge you. No fear that you can’t make friends.

If you no longer had abuse in your life, you could come and go as you please. You’d be able to make friends at your place of work. You’d be able to invite friends over or even accept their invitations to go out with them. With abuse out of the picture, can you see yourself watching a romantic or funny movie and being able to enjoy it without any repercussions?  If you can picture your life free of abuse, it’s time to change it.

How different would your life be? Do you have children that you would like to be free from abuse and have the fun that children deserve to have? Running in the sun, playing in the sand at the beach, in the woods; camping, hiking, laughter!

It took me until I was 32 to leave my abusive husband, ex now, and take my three children and move. I walked in on him strangling our ten-year-old son. He had his hands around his throat and our son was not touching the ground.  I keep wondering what would have happened had I not gotten home when I did and stopped him. I am ever so thankful it happened, it got me to MOVE OUT! I’m sorry it happened to my son. My children suffered for my insecurities, my weaknesses. For that, I will forever be sorry.

But I am not sorry I learned lessons from both of my abusers. They taught me what I didn’t want in life. They have proven to be just the @55holes that bullies are. Yes, abusers are nothing more than bullies.

From the time I was seven until I turned 32, I was at the hands of abusers. It was all I knew. I didn’t know anything else. Now, now I KNOW there is help out there. Now I know there are others in worse situations than what I was in. Now I know.. more than I ever wanted to.

But I’m here to help YOU. I want YOU to know that I CARE, I BELIEVE in YOU.

You don’t have to be alone. Reach out. Get Help before it’s too late. Save yourself. No one else can. Save your children. No one else will love them more or better than you.

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Thank you. You are so kind. So caring. So loving. Be good to yourself.  I promise, there is Light after Abuse!

With sincere love, Lou-Ellen.